When I was younger, I never really understood what it meant to be a “glass is half-empty” versus a “glass is half-full” type of person. Was one better than the other? Which one were we supposed to be? Through my life, things have happened that have helped me learn the difference between the two.
In February of 2008, I was invited to a black tie affair by a good friend of mine for the hospital where he is the Chief of Staff. I had gone to this event with him many times and always had a good time. I went out and bought a tux, had it tailored, got my shoes, and was all set to go. That night, just before I started to get ready, I told Sharon that I didn’t really feel like going.
Sharon and I talked about it and she told me that if I didn’t want to go that it was okay with her – we could just hang out at the house that night and watch a movie. As I hemmed and hawed about what I should do, I started to have this nagging feeling that I really should go. Something was telling me that you never know who you can meet at one of these things. So we got dressed and went.
While we were there I ran into a person I had done some work for in the past but hadn’t seen in several years. Within two minutes of my going up to him and saying “Hi”, he told me he had a client that needed a new accountant. He asked me for my card, called me the next morning, and hired me. I got a new client that paid me a significant amount of money over the next few months.
Up to this time, with two children in college, it felt like every cent was being drained from me and I was just keeping my head above water financially. I finally felt that I had gotten to a point where I could put a few dollars in my own pocket. Silly me!
Within a month of all of these good things happening, the landlord of the building that my office was in came to me and asked if I would consider moving out of my space as their business was growing and they could use the space themselves. I told them I would be happy to consider it but being an accountant, tax season was under way and I wouldn’t be able to move until late spring/early summer. I guess that wasn’t fast enough for them as a few weeks later they hired a team of lawyers and sued me to find a way to say I breached my lease and force me out.
Over the next two months, every cent that I earned from this new client went right out the window to lawyers I had to hired to defend myself and for my eventual move. The glass was definitely half-empty and draining quickly.
I was devastated.
I started asking God a lot of questions: how could this landlord (who was as close a relative to me as one can be) sue me when I did nothing wrong, how could I be in a position where I have no home for my business, how come every time I seem to get ahead a little bit someone is there to take my money away?
I can’t tell you how much time I spent praying over these questions. I would think about it when I was sitting at my desk, driving my car, taking a shower, lying in bed…
One day, almost shouting in my head out of frustration, I said “How come every time I get an opportunity some obstacle comes along and takes away the good that can come from that opportunity?”
Now I risk some people thinking I am absolutely crazy by saying this but someone answered.
A voice, just as if someone was standing next to me, came back and said, “that is why I put that opportunity in front of you so you could meet and overcome that obstacle.”
At that moment everything changed.
It was God. And God was telling me that He knew what was going to be coming down the road for me and had worked things out so I wouldn’t be harmed by the events that were about to unfold.
In that moment, my glass went from being half-empty and draining quickly to, not just half-full – it was overflowing.
That moment was one of those that changed my whole perspective. I now know there is good to come from every situation no matter how bleak things may seem. I have learned to look for the good that can come from every situation we find ourselves in.
I know this can sometimes be very, very hard because at times our situations may seem very dire but try to learn to look for the good that can come from a situation you are in and focus on that good.
God not only fills our glasses half-way, he fills them to overflowing. If we have faith in this we will find that there is always good to come from everything no matter how dark the day may seem at the time.